Pastors Want Members To Have Sex
Written by: Tom Sawyer
“God says sex should be between a married man and a woman. I think it’s one of the greatest things you can do for your kids because so goes the marriage, so goes the family.”
The Reverend Ed Young believes society promotes promiscuity and he wants to reclaim sex for married couples. He said sex should be a nurturing, spiritual thing. Young is the founder of the Grapevine, a non-denominational “Mega Church” with about 20,000 members.
Pastor Paul Wirth, who founded the non-denominational Relevant Ministries almost 4 years ago, found biblical references that he says suggest Jesus disapproved of pre-marital sex and promoted sex in marriage. So, he believes people connect to God through life-long commitment.
Reverend Young is challenging his married members to have sex for seven days straight – he is going to practice what he preaches, something he says is normal them.
Earlier this year, Pastor Wirth challenged his single members to abstain from sex for 30 days and his married members to have sex every day.
I grew up going to church so I want to point out some things:
- Both churches are non-denominational and that means something. Non-denominational churches are kind of free to do whatever and they often do. Of course, their actions are meant to do one thing (my opinion): draw people in.
- I noticed Pastor Wirth wanted his single members to abstain from having sex which means he isn’t routinely preaching/teaching on single people not having sex.
- People must know, the Gospel is about the good news and in our current society people want to hear what sounds good to them. We used to take more direction, but now people don’t really want anyone telling them what to do. This is true of churches, the military, the government, school systems, police departments and the list could go on and on. So if someone is willing to say what people want to hear, they become popular and in this case “Mega.”
- I have never heard of anything like this before and I’m kind of speechless.
Tags: Challenge, church, Pastor Wirth, Reverend Young, sex
November 17th, 2008 at 7:16 am
Tom, since I suggested this topic, I feel compelled to comment but I am about like you, I really don’t know how I feel. I do know being a newlywed, but being an older first time newlywed, I went in with my eyes pretty wide open and with a bit more life experience under my belt. But nothing except living it really prepares you for marriage. There are so many struggles, complications, and just flat out problems that go with marriage. I have told my husband on numerous occasions, intimacy is the one area of our marriage that could possibly soften the blow on the other parts of the marriage that are more difficult. I must admit that I do believe a healthy intimate life could possibly make marriages stronger. Why do I say that? Being close to someone when both parties are in agreement, aids as a connector keeping you close. Typically, I believe the act of sex/love making for married couples was not only God’s way of having us make babies, but also become one with each other; therefore as close as two people can be, thus a strong unit. However, I do believe that is the one area of the marriage that suffers first, is let go when problems arise, and is not tended to as it should be. (don’t shoot me for my thoughts, I said I am a newlywed!)
I am still not sure how I would feel about a pastor telling me to do it for 7 days straight. I don’t think it is wrong, I’m just not sure I think it is in good taste. Sex does seem to make the world go around and the vehicles touting the sex I’m talking about – commercials, movies, tabloids, etc – I don’t think are between husband and wife. I too applaud his efforts to bring it back to the place God intended it to be, between married couples, I just wonder if he couldn’t and shouldn’t do it in the confines of his marriage group gatherings!