My Race Would Not Do That!
Written by: Kim Sawyer
So, I was on another blog earlier today. And a story they posted from Newsweek caught my eye. The Newsweek article discusses polyamory. Huh? What is that, you ask? Well, according to www.dictionary.com, it is defined as “participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships.” Oh, okay, now I understand.:–)
So then I thought, what’s so special about this that Newsweek had to do an article on it. I mean, people do this all the time, right? Some knowingly (e.g. open relationships, friends with benefits, etc.) and well, unknowingly (e.g. marital affairs, cheating boyfriend/girlfriend, etc.). Just so you’re able to read what I read, here’s an excerpt of the article (if you would like to read the entire article, here’s the link: Newsweek)
“Terisa, 41, is at the center of this particular polyamorous cluster. A filmmaker and actress, she is well-spoken, slender and attractive, with dark, shoulder-length hair, porcelain skin—and a powerful need for attention. Twelve years ago, she started dating Scott, a writer and classical-album merchant. A couple years later, Scott introduced her to Larry, a software developer at Microsoft, and the two quickly fell in love, with Scott’s assent. The three have been living together for a decade now, but continue to date others casually on the side. Recently, Terisa decided to add Matt, a London transplant to Seattle, to the mix. Matt’s wife, Vera, was OK with that; soon, she was dating Terisa’s husband, Larry. If Scott starts feeling neglected, he can call the woman he’s been dating casually on the side. Everyone in this group is heterosexual, and they insist they never sleep with more than one person at a time.”
After I read the excerpt, I began to read the comments that people left pertaining to this article. And what was surprising is most of the commenters believed this type of activity, is race-specific. In other words, the commenters (and there were over 200 plus comments) believed that Whites and/or other races commit ployamory more than Blacks. I was like, really? Then I began to wonder, could this be true? Does one race commit or partake in a specific act, more than another race? Hmmmm. I then thought, well, people believe that Black men are more likely to call Black women (or women in general) a “B&tch” more than any other race, right? So, there may be something to how these commenters think.
So, 7DayBuzz readers, I bring the question to you. Are there race-specific actions? I mean, does one race commit or participate in an act more than another? What about the act of polyamory? After reading the excerpt and/or article, do you think Whites do this more than any other race, as some of the commenters believe on another blog? I’m just throwing it out there and to see if it sticks.:–)
Tags: black people acts vs. white people acts, how does your race do certain things?, newsweek article, polyamory, race-specific acts
July 30th, 2009 at 9:31 pm
I think people of all races do this type of thing. To say it only happens in one race or another is kind of ignorant. Speaking of which, why don’t we just have an ignorant race so these people can be with someone like them.
There used to be a swingers club in Vegas called the Red Rooster – I never went. I have heard different races talk about going so I know in this city anyone is likely to do this sort of thing.
July 30th, 2009 at 11:59 pm
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July 31st, 2009 at 5:20 am
I just accidentally deleted my whole message. I am so mad. I will be back…
July 31st, 2009 at 6:07 am
Let’s try it again!
I don’t think there is ANY behavior or lifestyles exclusive to just one race however, I do strongly believe certain behaviors and practices – good, bad or indifferent – are seen more predominantly in one race than another. If someone said blacks eat watermelon and fried chicken, so be it! I know we are not the only race of people who eat those foods however; we probably do eat more than other races so we are generalized in that manner. But on the flip side, if we say whites are more promiscuous and participants in non- customary sexual activities, so be that too, right?!
I think you can find any race participating in this lifestyle but if you start throwing around statistics, I think the commenters will be correct. Did anybody watch Swingtown last season? A show based around two couples. One couple swingers and one non-swingers that became avid swingers. It was only on for a few weeks and was canceled. I watched it a few times and as the weeks went on, it became more and more explicit and I wondered how it was going to stay on the air! It didn’t and by the say, not one black person was swinging in that show!
August 1st, 2009 at 7:35 am
Throughout my travels through the world I have met many different types of people. With many different views on SEX. While in Europe I noticed that the general crowd was quite promiscuous. While in the Middle East even though thought to be very conservative, the land offered many of their own types of fetishes. In South America I have noticed many individuals having several partners during youth and becoming very exclusive later on in life. Having never been to Asia I cannot speak firsthand about the subject but I have been told Asia is, “Freaky Deaky Sex Land.” Now back to the states, I have had the opportunity to be involved with many different groups of people. As far as sexual lifestyle is concerned these groups are very similar and to label one race as any worse then another I think is absurd. In my opinion race has nothing to do with how big of swinger an individual may be. It has a lot to do with family life, self esteem issues, and where they grew up. In certain areas of the states it is more accepted to be a, “free loving individual.” For others it is a major self esteem issue whether they choose to flaunt it or not. Finally coming back to the main source of the majority of problems people have today is the household they grew up in. As onlookers from the outside, we never can really see the problems in a household and therefore should never prejudge anyone. Families who separate at certain critical ages of children’s life and the actions of the parents will have effects on the children. Families who stay together and are not happy will have certain effects on children. Coming back to the race issue of this subject, I don’t believe this issue is from race. More of one race may do this in a certain areas of the world or the country, but this act comes from other factors.